What do you think of when someone says the word ‘Anger’? Do you picture something negative or even scary?
You may be surprised to know that anger isn’t always a negative emotion. It can be useful. For example, your anger can let people know where your limits are. It can also help to strengthen your determination to succeed at a goal. When you start feeling angry, you might think it’s a good idea to stop whatever you are doing with someone in case it leads to conflict.
But there are downsides to anger, such as acting before you think. As we know, the consequences of reacting when you see the ‘red mist’ can be disastrous! Being very angry can also negatively affect your performance on certain tasks.
Anger is just one of the emotions in your emotional toolbox, along with happiness, sadness, joy, surprise and so on.
Anger stops being useful or helpful when you feel angry all the time or react with anger to most situations. You think getting angry can earn you social status or respect. It may the only emotion you feel is acceptable to your group or even to yourself. It’s better than admitting you are feeling so low, or even depressed, right? But what if you can’t control this anger? What then?
Anger can create serious problems in your relationships, or you might lose work opportunities or in more extreme scenarios, you can end up on the wrong side of the law. Did you know that being angry all the time can be really bad for your health in the long term? There are studies that link serious disorders like high blood pressure and heart disease to long-term anger management problems.
So, if you want to change or manage your anger, what can you do?
You can contact us here at Creating Expressions. We can help you find other ways of expressing yourself, another way to get what you want.
We can help you get control before you ‘lose it’.